When it comes to decisions, some we can make no problem, but often people get caught in a vicious circle of over thinking the problem. This means that a decision is difficult to reach and precious time is spent for you to get, well, nowhere. How can an over thinker stop over thinking?
- Be Self Aware
The first thing you have to do is be aware of when you are over thinking. Forbes.com suggest that you should learn to, “notice you’re re-playing events in your mind over and over, or worrying about things you can’t control, acknowledge that your thoughts aren’t productive.”
2. Focus on the Here and Now
Being self-aware means you can shift your focus from the negative to the positive by making the choice to do so. Move your attention away from what will be – which is normally steeped in fear, to what actually is. You have money worries and see yourself getting deeper and deeper in debt? Stop looking long term into the future and start looking at how you can increase your salary now and how you can reduce your outgoings.
3. Think of What can go Right, Not Wrong
Inc.com recommend changing the way approach the decision. By not thinking of the worst possible outcome first, but by thinking of what the best possible outcome is, the path to that place is so much clearer, “In many cases, overthinking is caused by a single emotion: fear. When you focus on all the negative things that might happen, it’s easy to become paralysed. Next time you sense that you starting to spiral in that direction stop. Visualize all the things that can go right and keep those thoughts present and up front.”
4. Give up Control
Overthinking is very common amongst those who need to control every aspect of their life. If this is you, then it is very difficult to give up this power, but by acknowledging that not everything is within your control, but that there are other ways to regain the control if you look at the problem from a different dynamic, you will soon learn that there is another way.
5. Set Decision Making Deadlines
By setting a short time limit for decisions, you will force yourself to take the appropriate course of action much more quickly. Often the decisions we agonize over will affect our home life and relationships, so act more businesslike in your thinking. This will help you with reducing the time spent on the decision.
This is the most difficult but by far the easiest way of going head to head with the fear that is causing you to overthink a problem. Without action, you are not able to put a full stop on your brain thinking of what can be. If you continually think of wanting to quit work and start a business yourself, there is never really a good time to do so. Giving up that guaranteed income is scary. But if you actually plan it, you will likely find you will be much happier – even if you find you don’t ever give up work. At the end of the day, you want to ensure you turn the negative overthinking of the problem, which is building it up into something that it probably isn’t, the big push. By acting on the problem, you will immediately feel lighter and happier.